Once again honesty is the best policy. When coaches ask what other schools are recruiting you, just name the schools. There are actually two ways to be dishonest in answering the question. The first is to not tell which schools are recruiting you and the second is to lie about which ones are. Understanding why you shouldn’t do the former explains why some are tempted to do the latter.
One reason why some players and families are reluctant to name schools is that it already feels like the coach holds all the cards. Withholding the names provides a sense of control of the situation, a sort of “you’ve got your agenda and I’ve got mine” situation.
Tell them everyone wants you…
The problem is that such an attitude is usually counterproductive. If coaches know that players have other options, this encourages the coach to recruit even harder. The NCSA argues that “If the coach finds out that many other schools are recruiting you then you will immediately look like a better recruit. Try to let them know about schools that are similar to the one you are talking to.”
This is pretty much the standard advice in college recruiting:
Go Big Recruiting: Be honest and if possible, list colleges that are comparable to, rivals with, or better than the institution you are visiting. This will make them want to fight for you more!
RecruitLook: A coach will become more interested if they know other schools are in the mix. It shows that you are a solid recruit that is being targeted by the competition.
Pure Energy Sports: Schools similar to the one you are speaking with, such as in the same conference, academic level, or division.
Another reason players may not want to answer “what other schools are recruiting you” is that they think that coaches may not recruit them as hard if they know the player has other options. Depending on the other options, this could be true. For example, a D2 coach might think a player isn’t serious about attending her school is she is also being seriously recruited by D1 schools.
However, in such as a case, if a player has a good reason to consider the D2 school because of available programs, location, etc, the player should certainly let the coach know these reasons. The coach can than focus on selling the school’s other opportunities.
…because coaches don’t want to miss out…
Ultimately, showing that other coaches value you enough to recruit you make you a more attractive candidate. A coach wants to know what other schools are recruiting you as a way to judge your ability. Recruiting-101.com sums up the situation as “Athletic scholarships breed more athletic scholarships.”
…there was an athlete in the Class of 2014 who had a few smaller scholarship offers. While there were some good schools among the mix, they were not major Division I power programs. It seemed that a number of other schools continued to balk at offering him and fed him a lot of lines along the way.
The prospect decided to take a trip out to Penn State and see their campus. While on the trip, the prospect and his dad got a chance to speak with the legendary Joe Paterno. But before leaving, they ended up extending him a scholarship offer. This shows how confident Penn State was about him and their evaluation. They were the first major school to offer.
And once word got out about the offer, which it did because it was broadcast very well, his recruiting absolutely blew up. Within weeks, he is already up to double digit scholarship offers and more are on the way
…but only if it’s TRUE!
Knowing that having other offers makes a recruit look more valuable, some players may be tempted to make up offers that don’t actually exist. This is not a smart move. RecruitLook explains that chances are you’ll be caught, “As competitive as the recruiting game and game days are, college coaches are a tight group. They all hang and run in the same crowds, and even though they might not personally know one another, they know somebody that knows them.”
Athnet’s Guide to Communicating with College Coaches lists 5 lies that recruits tell coaches with the first one being “Making up scholarship offers.” Their advice:
making up a scholarship offer just to try and drive the price up on another program is a huge no-no. Coaches talk to one another and one way or the other they will confirm your scholarship offer, if they found out you lied of course they won’t be offering you a scholarship and neither will the school you made up.
Finally, what if there aren’t any other college recruiting you? Given everything I’ve just said, this would seem to be a more serious problem. Again, no reason to lie. Playced.com suggests the following possible responses:
you could say “I have just started the process” or “I am waiting to hear back from several colleges.” Everyone wants to date the popular girl/boy and every coach wants to sign the popular recruit.